soyouvebeendumped.com

Here we are the first post in 2010. It’s a little challenging to believe that this year will mark the tenth anniversary of this site and indeed playing Agony Auntie to the world’s lovelorn.

In that time, there have been countless stories of love gone wrong from men and women, sixteen to sixty (and then some) all over the globe.

Most people arrive at soyouvebeendumped.com – in a seemingly-broken state. They’re lost, confused, hurt, angry, hopeless, foolish, betrayed, indignant, vengeful, sad, bitter, and just about everything in between.

On the site’s largest thread, a vault for all things left unsaid, common phrases range from “I miss you” to “I hate you” to “how could you?” – all utterly common reactions to being left behind.

If you’re in that phase, welcome.

The good news is that generally speaking, it’s not long before people here start to feel less alone. Some might say that misery loves company but the stories on the forum offer hope and inspiration – and it’s more than that it’s people helping people.

Some visitors may stick around the site for one or two minutes, hours or even days – for others it’s months – and still other, more loyal types, it’s years.

Don’t worry – they’re there not because they’re in pain anymore (though admittedly some are on their second, third or even fourth break ups) -  but rather  because they’ve become part of an incredible community.

The great thing about the human condition is that, for the most part, we’re resilient. It may SEEM like the “end of the world” when our lovers say “goodbye” – but in the vast majority of cases it’s simply not true. We heal – often in spite of ourselves.

If you’re new, please come along and make yourself at home. As I sit here and type to you now, we’re on the verge of hitting 150,000 posts and nearly 15,000 discussions (or topics). We have pretty much seen it all and helped tens of thousands of people in the past decade.

While every story is unique – every story is also incredibly universal too.

Though the Dumped Zone is our busiest area – there are hundreds of interesting and inspirational posts in the many other Zones on the Ex-Change.

Always a favorite is the Good News forum. You hear all types of tales – big and little on there if you need to hear that “life goes on” then that’s the place to take a gander.

You will read about the gal who’s turning 40 and is off on Safari, another relocating from North America to South East Asia or still another who just got engaged after many doomed relationships (and to a guy she’d known for years but had never seen int that way – classic).

It’s not only the women who are achieving big and small feats – there’s the Irishman channeling his hurt into music and recording an EP at present and the other guy who’s delighted to have picked up more hours at work. There’s the Aussie chap who’s off to Bali – having never travelled abroad as an adult.

So you see, it’s not all doom and gloom around these parts. There’s some good, inspiring stuff here too…

Another place to get a boost is the the Light Zone – where you find poetry, inspirational quotes, and funny stories too.

A favorite thread of mine is where people from all over the world post their favorite quotes. A fantastic and appropriate Mark Twain quote was posted recently…I think I’ll leave you with it…Especially for those of you who have residual anger and resentment at your ex or someone else in your life…

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”

Welcome to 2010 at So You’ve Been Dumped. Tell us how we can help you on your recovery path…For now set some goals of what you’d like to achieve this year and feel free to share them with us here on the blog or on the forum.

It’s a time for new beginnings for us all,…and I know it’s a bit of a cliche but let’s live  each day as if it were our last because we never know when it will be…

Remember “this too shall pass” – that goes for the good stuff as well as the less than good stuff…