Welcome to So You’ve Been Dumped
Welcome to SYBD! We’re here 24/7 to offer breakup support, along with inspirational stories, tips and advice.
Your new story starts here, now.
Hello and thank you for visiting So You’ve Been Dumped – the longest running breakup site on the web! To celebrate twenty years, we’ve just started over from scratch (not unlike many of our site members!)
If you have found yourself unintentionally single, dumped, ghosted, unfriended or unfollowed by someone you thought cared, then you’re in the right place.
While the advice here is generally aimed at the lovelorn, if you’ve been rejected at a job, by a friend or left out of a group chat, then you’ll find some inspiring tips and support too.
I’m Thea Newcomb and I launched SYBD on July 4, 2000. You could say SYBD was borne out of my own experience of being unceremoniously dumped – three times, in about as many years.
Honestly, being dumped was the best thing that ever happened to me…eventually.
Want to share your story?
Join the Exchange – our private and anonymous forum – where you can share your experiences and connect with people who are going through what you are.
Need a laugh? Read/Share breakup lines here.
Add your story to the How, When and Where Did Your Relationship End blog post.
While pain is generally inevitable, one’s suffering is not.
You can choose a different response, starting right now.
SYBD Featured Posts
Take a look through some of SYBD’s most popular posts over the last twenty years. We are updating posts weekly.
So You Want to Write a Letter to Your Ex So you want to write a letter to your ex? I get that. Over the years on SYBD, there have been countless questions, comments, musings about whether or not...
ED NOTE: Welcome back to another guest post on SYBD. All guest posts are written by my request and unsolicited submissions won't be read. Thanks so much and enjoy Rose's story. Cast your mind all...
Have You Ever Been Ghosted?Ghosting is Not New - Only Its Name Was (in 2015) This is an updated archive post from 2015: Have you been Ghosted? Do you know what that means? I had never heard the word...
Thea’s 12 Stages of a Breakup – video
You may find the 12 Stages of a Breakup (& How to Survive Them) video both helpful and entertaining. While it is a wee bit long (around 11 mins!) – it will be useful to consider the various stages of the healing process and what it takes to really get over your ex.
The video walks through the universal experiences of hurt, anger, confusion, the seemingly crazy thoughts and behaviours and the whole non-linear process that is getting over it.
Do feel free to add your comments on the video over on SYBD’s YouTube channel.