Welcome to So You’ve Been Dumped
Welcome to SYBD – your new story can start here, right now.
I am Thea and yes, I have been dumped. Since 2000 my site has been here to offer breakup support, along with inspirational stories, tips and advice to the world’s lovelorn.
I am so glad you found us as So You’ve Been Dumped is the longest running breakup site on the web!
Last year, to celebrate our milestone birthday, 4th of July 2020, I started SYBD over from scratch (not unlike many of our site members!)
Sometimes we all need a fresh start…
If you have found yourself unintentionally single, dumped, ghosted, unfriended or unfollowed by someone you thought cared, then you’re in the right place.
While the advice here is generally aimed at the lovelorn, if you’ve been rejected at a job, by a friend or left out of a group chat, then you’ll find some inspiring tips and support too.
I launched SYBD due to my own experience of being unceremoniously dumped – three times, in about as many years.
Honestly, being dumped was the best thing that ever happened to me…eventually.
Want to share your story?
Add your story to the How, When and Where Did Your Relationship End blog post.
Need a laugh? Read/Share breakup lines here.
While pain is generally inevitable, one’s suffering is not.
You can choose a different response, starting right now.
SYBD Featured Posts
Take a look through some of SYBD’s most popular posts over the last twenty years. We are updating posts weekly.
This is a vintage SYBD post about joint finances after a breakup. Written by a dear friend Neil Bellamy, at the time of our launch, it is just as relevant today - twenty one years later. Let's Talk...
This in archive post updated in 2021 on the Power of Forgiveness: Do you forgive the people who you feel have done you wrong? Or do you hold on every single perceived slight or misdemeanour –...
A Discussion on Being Friends with an Ex Here is an archive thread from the early days of SYBD on they hotbed topic: being friends with an ex. Hands up, who's tried to be friends with an ex? It's...
Thea’s 12 Stages of a Breakup – video
You may find the 12 Stages of a Breakup (& How to Survive Them) video both helpful and entertaining. While it is a wee bit long (around 11 mins!) – it will be useful to consider the various stages of the healing process and what it takes to really get over your ex.
The video walks through the universal experiences of hurt, anger, confusion, the seemingly crazy thoughts and behaviours and the whole non-linear process that is getting over it.
Do feel free to add your comments on the video over on SYBD’s YouTube channel.